dearest dad
so the other day i got a card for my birthday from my dad. my dad is not known for his affections or even showing much emotion at all. i think i can count all the times that my dad has said "i love you" on just 2 hands. i never really thought much of it until i met other people's dads and noticed ones were very openly affectionate or whatver and realized my dad was different. i think though that it is a product of his upbringing in the philippines or just his culture overall.
anyway, on my wedding day, my mom made pete and i dance (even though we did not want to). the idea was to make money during the dance, so it was actually kind of cool. anyone who wanted to dance with pete or i had to put money in a little purse or in pete's coat pocket. i think we made out with over $100 or something, and we only had to dance for a few minutes.
so my dad comes up to dance with me, and during the whole dance he is telling me something. i'm listening intently, because i figured that this was going to be one of those rare affectionate moments. but...no. he is lecturing me. lecturing me about being respectful and how important it is to show people that you respect them...yada, yada, yada. mind you, i have heard this lecture my whole life. i thought i would at least get something different for my wedding day.
now, i love my dad. and this moment only made that part of my wedding even more hilarious than i thought it could be. so what about this birthday card, you ask? well, the part that was produced and that he paid for was very affectionate. the part that he wrote in was....typical.
this is what it said:
"don't forget what i always telling you the words. respect. love, dad" (respect is underlined here a couple of times. yeah. i'm not kidding.)
good ol' dad. i can't wait to hear what he has to say his grandchildren.
**i would have included the photo of me and my dad dancing together, because it is a much nicer representation of my dad. but it was in a tif file....whatever that means.
6 comments:
Maybe you could email me the pic of you and your dad dancing. I still haven't seen any wedding pictures and it's been like 10 years!
Remember - RESPECT! Remember.
i should just post them on flickr or something like that. we weren't that happy with how they turned out, so i have always been reluctant to share too many of them. i also never took bridal pics, which i regret now. geez. no respect...
OF COURSE I remember you, AA!!! I should have known you'd stay in touch with the Bybee family- LOVE them! Now that I know it's you, I'll have to check in here more often...
-Farrah.
i think we missed a golden opportunity to be better friends when we were the only filipinas in all of provo. that said, i am always telling myself the same thing about my dad...not very good at expressing himself, or good with emotions/affection because he was born in the phillipines, etc.
i love it that you guys did the filipino money dance at your wedding. we didn't but i like that tradition. maybe i will make my kids do it.
oh and by the way, your dad looks alot, i mean, alot like my dad. but i say that about most older asian men. Happy Birthday!
i agree michelle, we should've hung out more in provo. i always/still do think you're awesome.
i think most filipino dads/men look alike. more so than the women.
we only did the dance because my mom made me, but everyone loved it. my parents even cooked lumpia and other dishes for our wedding. people still ask me about it, but i refuse to make it by myself. it just takes too long. i did it a couple times at byu, but i had help from some guys who served their missions in the phillipines.
TIF means you can't upload it on your blog. Also, you're dad is awesome
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